My sister Keli inspired me. She has been blogging all week why she enjoys being a mother. But she blogged about something today that got me thinking. She said "I love having this job, with basically no prior skills, I feel like it is a natural fit." So true. Why is it that every other job we have had, you have to be interviewed, show a resume', and have the qualifications to be considered. But, this job, of a MOM is the most important. Maybe because most everyone had a mother that taught them how to be a Mom or how to not be a Mom.
I have a question for all of you.
What qualification do you wish you would have known you needed before you were a mother?
I remember the day we came home home from the hospital with carter. I was terrified of being left with him. I couldn't believe they were sending me home without a manual or instructions or something, and my Mom gave me the best advice. "He has never had a mother before." He didn't know if I was doing it wrong. At this point in my life I wish the qualification I wish I had was a psychology degree. If I could only figure out what is going on in that 11 year old head. Maybe I don't want to know!
Tell me what you think?
10 comments:
I think the best qualification you need to be a Mom is LOVE. We need lots of other qualifications, but if you love your kids, they will know it. And sometimes we just have to wait things out and they turn out just fine. Especially when our kids are going through a hard time. We know we've taught them right so we just have to love them and hang in there with them til they get through it.
Trust me, your kids know that you love them. And I love them, too.
I thought being a mom to little kids was hard! I had no idea about how hard it is to have a teenager. (especially a very social girl-crazy teenager!) I wish they could stay little forever.
I agree with you about 11 year olds. I think my other kids are easy compared to her and I dont even want to think about what it will be like in 5 years!!! Even though all 3 of my kids drive me crazy, When they are at their Dads I miss them like crazy and dont know what I would do without them (even Hanna)!
I wish i could have a degree in counseling children- when they are upset or won't tell me what's buggin them- could I talk it out of them? It is so true- mom's don't get teh credit they deserve!
Unfortunately with motherhood, I've learned by trial and error and feel like I made alot of mistakes at the beginning. Now I kinda know what I'm doing and wish I could go back and start over (Well, not really!!)
For me, a medical degree would be very handy. I would use it everyday, instead of running to the doctor for every cough or sniffle...and it would really come in handy with raising a diabetic!
I wish I could grow more arms and eyes. Or maybe just get a clone or something.
But really, I think it mostly comes down to reverse psychology. You have to do the opposite of what the kids are expecting in order for them to understand it. At least my kids.
And thanks for the shout out.
I took all the parenting classes before I had kids. Now, I wish I could take them again. I am sure I would listen closer. I think if we listen closely, we will know what to do in different situations.
Hey, I cancelled my blog so I will have to keep in touch on your blog. Maybe it is a stupid idea, but we will see.
Well Jill,
For me it has been a natural fit with my daughters and I think it is because I was pregnant with them. That is the pre-requisit that made all of the difference for me. Raising my son has been the hardest thing I have ever done. It is a daily struggle. Often the promting has come to me, "You are the only mother he has ever known." No matter how much I question how well I am doing, when ever I see him do nice things for others, I know he is going to turn out great. I didn't have a mother who taught me how to be a good mom until I had Katherine.
Right now I need a psychology degree. I need to figure out what is going on in Eli's head. There are so many problems I wish I knew how to take care of. We will probably figure them out when the kids are gone. Just like your mom, she knows all the answers now.
I love what Paula said about loving them and having patience that it will all turn out okay. I need more faith that they will get through it. It's scary though and a scary world they have to deal with.
Psychology would have been very helpful. I question everything I do and wonder if I am hurting them or dealing with it incorrectly. I guess the good news is that none of us are perfect parents and yet our kids make it through it somehow.
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